If Your Social Environment,Stinks, Buck It!
There's a popular saying that you can't buck the
sytem. But when it comes to fitting into other people's
idea of what they want you to be, yes you can!
The idea that you have to meet other people's expectations
is a bucketfull, and I think you know what of. Well, it's
time each of took charge of our own bucket!You may have an
idea of what you would like me to be, but when it comes to control
over my life, it's like Harry Truman's buck. It
stops here.
I have finally realized I have to be true to myself. I bet
a lot of other folks are thinking they aren't being
true to themselves, either. But you have to be. Maybe you
are apologetic sometimes. Maybe you come off as a whiner
sometimes. And yes, if you say something that is in contradiction
to what someone else thinks, you'll be called an asshole
occasionally. Maybe you WILL be an asshole. But not being
yourself so others will accept you is like throwing a buck
at a credit card debt. It deprives you of a buck, it doesn't
resolve the debt, and the one receiving it never considers
it enough.
Patterns of living are like bucket seats; the problem is
that everyone has a different size bucket! "To thine
own self be true." Still good advice after these many
centuries. Some are downright arrogant the way they diss
physical and orientational types in their profiles and
replies, or even in their e-mail contacts. There are ways
to say what you want and don't want without rudeness,
but as a general rule I'd prefer to have them be honest
than have me contact them needlessly. For the purpose of
what I am examinig here, courtesy is not an issue; honesty
about who we are is. Better to have a bucketfull of the cool
water of clarity than an ocean of confusion and deception.
People who try to live up to what they think others want are
setting themselves up to be hurt and disappointed. Before
you can satisfy your own ambitions and desires, you must
discover and confront who you really are. A person who callously
offends and hurts another with their insensitivity is
like a cow that steps in the bucket while being milked, but
someone who tries to be what everyone else wants and then
goes through life unsatisfied is like a milkmaid that steps
in her OWN bucket.
Don't like the system? Then buck it! Be true to yourself,
and you'll find you wou will be much happier.
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