The first kiss is all important (A beginners guide to kissing)
Okay, I've heard from a great many women in my life that
the first kiss will set the tone and give her a general idea
of how experienced/good a man is. I've had ex's
say they won't go any farther with a man if the first
kiss is sub-par as well. Fortunately I seem to be a "great"
kisser among other things so its only fair that I pass this
info on to those in need (whether or not they know it).
First things first, find out if she's interested.
Subtle clues like twirling their hair, touching your arm
or leg, or good eye contact are generally good indicators
that a woman wants you to kiss her. Unfortunately for me
I am clueless (and from what I understand most men are) and
never pick up those subtle hints so I revert to the old stand
by. Ask. Be sweet, be flirtatious when you ask, and most
women I've found respond better by being asked first
rather than just jumping in tongue first. I think it's
a control thing with women, it helps them to feel safe and
know that they can control when and where they will allow
you to kiss them.
Second, if you've picked up the signs or asked and all
seems to be well its time to "make your move".
Start by putting one hand on the back of their neck and slowly
draw her towards you. This will give the illusion that you
are in control of the kiss when in reality you should be paying
extremely close attention to how she wants to be kissed.
Some women like short, chaste kisses with little tongue,
others like deep prolonged passionate kisses.
DON'T KISS HER LIKE YOU WANT TO KISS HER! I really can't
stress that one enough. Let her guide you when your lips
meet. If her mouth is open, respond in kind. Likewise if
her mouth is closed to start, don't try to ram your tongue
past her lips. Pay close attention to how she uses her tongue,
if its short probing touches with the tongue, don't
go licking her tonsils. Also, I've heard from a lot
of women that a man licking their teeth is an extreme turn
off so be careful about that (I don't see the attraction
personally so I don't worry about it).
Oh, don't forget your hands. Hands can play a very important
part of a kiss as they help relay the passion that you feel.
One hand behind the neck or resting your palm on their cheek,
or both are great ways of showing your infatuation. Don't
use your hands to grope while kissing at first. Never, ever
EVER immediately go straight for the breasts or thighs.
Work towards it, kissing is the beginnings of a hopefully
wonderful sexual experience that should not be rushed.
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