What piercing does for me personally
On a photograph or in the real world, if I see piercing, I
am fascinated. Negative fascination, that is! Something
in my head says OUCH! every time I see body piercing of one
form or another. I am told that piercing is cool to behold.
I disagree. I personally find most piercing repulsive,
at best. Being a sensitive person, my first response to
most stimuli is to ask myself: "What do I feel about
this?"
I feel that someone who has their eyebrow(s), back or front
of neck, lip(s), nose, and other similar place, pierced
with a pin or stud looks sad and punky. When I look at the person,
my judgemental side asks "Why are you mutilating
your lovely face, your sexy arched eyebrows, your sensuous
lips, your cute little nose, etc" It is a form of mutilation
to me.....deforming, degrading that which was naturally
beautiful and transforming it into some form of artificial
freakshow. It makes me wonder: "Why would such a beautiful
person choose to mutilate themself?" Are they mutilation
exhibitionists? Are they trying to draw attention to themselves
because they think this is the only way not to be ignored?
Why invite such negative fascination?
There are some beauty-enhancing piercings, which I feel
differently about. The pierced ear-lobe with a diamond
stud is often very becoming. The navel jewel looks really
pretty in some women, and although I am personally a bit
sqeamish about it, I must say it looks good on some, and even
enhances their beauty. Women in India wear a nostril diamond
for religious reasons after marriage. It is something
about being owned by the husband. Although I am personally
against the visual signs of being owned, it is not my culture,
and I respect their rights to observe theirs. If anyone
can expand on the reason, I would be interested.
People who mutilate themselves in ways that alarm me the
most are those who choose to do so to their tongues, nipples,
cocks and pussies, especially their clits. If I want to
french kiss, it is a sensuous moment ruined by drawing away
in horror, if i find a stud there. If I want to suck on a nipple,
I don't get turned on by a stud through it. I want to run
away from it. If I want to lick or nibble on a clit, to stimulate
a woman, I look in horror there if I find a stud or a pin. It
makes me wince. It gives me a feeling of strange sickness
in my stomach. It makes me even feel like crying for the person
who has done this to themselves. Maybe these are the emotions
the wearer is trying to evoke in the observer? Do they want
pity and revulsion? I am told by some people that piercings
of this type are a turn-on and that they contribute to stimulation
during sex. I can really think of better, less uglifying
ways, personally.
There are psychological reasons why people mutilate or
hurt themselves. It is generally classified as "self
harm" and is found in people who are angry or frustrated
and want to express it physically on themselves. Surely
they are not to blame for their own anger and frustration
and need to find a way to direct it elsewhere. People who
cut themselves with knives or razorblades are also mutilating
their bodies and many end up in hospital where they get the
treatment they need, much to the pity or disgust of the staff.
I am horrified that self mutilation has become fashionable.
It is a sad reflection on our society. I say "Do your
body a big favour and please stop and think and ask yourself
for the reason you need to do this to yourself, before you
go ahead with a piercing". If you could spend the money
it costs on going to a discrete psychotherepy session,
then I think it would be money better spent!
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