Honesty, the best policy?
Does the truth matter? That question is tougher than many
would expect. To my knowledge, truth is a concept that is
difficult to define. What concerns me more is the question
of honesty, especially in a remote forum like an online
dating service.
The subject is likely to draw a cringe from some people who
insist upon living in a fantasy world intertwined with
reality. The usual suspects are married people and people
who lie about their sexual preference. The married people
who are out swinging unbeknownst to their spouse are a dangerous
lot. Where sexual preference is concerned, Im
not talking about the people who answer, prefer not to say;
Im specifically concerned with the people who
answer straight when they really are not.
Dishonest married people can place a date in a terrible
danger. A jealous spouse is unpredictable. The argument
could be made that a person would be nave not to know that
a person is married. Really? Is it all that easy to spot a
liar? That is only the first level of dishonesty.
On an equally disconcerting level, if a person were willing
to hose their spouse, what would they be willing to do to
a date? Lying is a habit for some. Is it possible to take their
word about being disease free? What else will that person
be willing to conceal?
As for the issue of sexual preference, the dishonesty is
a great annoyance to me. I wonder how many studs
on this site would be horrified if their female friends
discovered that they routinely masturbate to homosexual
fantasies. These guys place straight as their sexual preference,
and then want me to have phone sex with them or more. How childish
is that?
How about a little honesty to break down some stereotypes?
As a bisexual, I am as masculine as any guy. I am built like
a truck. I also have to fight off stereotypes inflicted
by the kind of dishonesty perpetrated by these studs.
The average person wandering around on this site would
think that a bisexual male is an oddity. Yet, I would be willing
to bet that many of the guys here would get off on a guy-to-guy
get together. I do. However, I also love the company of women.
And Im not just talking about horny hook ups; I mean
having a good time and enjoying each others company.
My point is that my bio stands out from more than a few because
I am up front and honest in it. This makes my bio look a little
odd. But I wonder how common it would look if all of those
guys in the bathhouse actually listed their real sexual
preference in their bio. I wonder how many women would be
surprised to discover their studs
other side.
The question for anyone reading this: Does honesty count
that much for you?
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