Conjointly Troubled
There are quite a few men and women who come to sex and swinger
sites because they are unhappy in their relationships.
Sadly, this is a fairly common thing. A swinger site is
a quick fix to a long-term problem And quick fixes for continuing
problems usually don't work. They are worse than getting
out of the joint only to find yourself with a hardnosed parole
officer for twenty years.
A dissatisfying relationship situation is trouble for
both parties, usually. like water in a damaged joint of
pipe, the passion leaks out. The damage needs to be mended
to restore service to a suitable level. Bringing bottled
water in from outside won't meet all the needs.
First, both parties in a relationship need to be aware that
there is a problem, and need to see what thew problem actually
is. A knee joint may hurt, but the treatment given depends
on whether it's been injured, is out of joint, has arthritis,
or is supporting to much weight. And so it is with any close
relationship, most especially, but not limited to marriage.
If the physical attraction, the passion, is waning, both
parties most be willing to find out why. You must, my friend,
be able to listen to the other's complaints without
getting your nose out of joint. What may sound nitpicking
to you is probably important to them, or they wouldn't
be mentioning it.
Then, of course, beyond gaining awareness, there is a matter
of communication. A close relationship is a joint affair.
Smoking a joint or having a drink together may ease the momentary
discomfort by diverting attebtion from the problem, but
it doesn't fix it. Fixing it means you joint ogether
and work on the real causes. That hard. But if you want a new
spark in the joint life you share it is not only worth it but
essential.
And last, joint ventures in business and love both require
trust. That's the real problem with trying to make
things better by finding outside action. That fling really
might not mean anything to you but a bit of slap-and-tickle,
but when your partner finds out (and believe me, they will!)
he or she will probably consider it a betrayal of their trust.
More often than not that is a deal breaker.
So enjoin you to talk, take a fresh look at what you once saw
in them, begin thinking of them as more of a treasure than
a possession. Start doing things together. Join some clubs
or organizations as a pair. Go out to a movie or concert.
Laugh together. Then when your bodies join in passion,
it will be music again, not just a call to duty.
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