Opening Gambit.....
It would never cross my mind to wander up to a woman in a bar
or club, or even my local grocery store, look her up and down
and say "Want me to fuck you?", while waving
a grainy polaroid of something purporting to be the longest,
widest, nuclear-powered piston of a cock at her... Yet,
having spoken to many women with profiles on Adult FriendFinder etc. this
seems to be a standard form of 'introduction'.
Which begs a number of questions.... Firstly, why a majority
of us men put cock shots on their profiles? I am aware, of
course, of one obvious answer, that being anonimity. I
can no more identify my neighbours by their genitalia than
they can me (I hope). However, we can surely all hope that
having checked the box that says 'Male', that
in a good many cases this will mean the man in question comes
with male genitalia attached? Leading on from that, does
it represent the inner symbol of their own dominance? A
sort of 'I hold the rod (pun intended) of power, kneel
all ye who appear before me?' Does it mean he will turn
up on the first date, not only with the aforementioned grainy
polaroid, but with the real, live(?) thing hanging out
the front of his pants? One would hope not, but never say
never. I will probably write a more detailed piece on that
later.
What prompted me to write this are my experiences in opening
conversations with women in an online situation. What
should my 'opening gambit' be? I have heard and
seen it written many times, that while men function visually,
women function aurally. In other words they respond more
to words than images. **Digression - This in itself presents
and interesting dichotomy in that I must get my words across
in a visual medium, to a person who is stimulated aurally...
end of digression**. We will take it as a given that there
are many more men on here than females, so I do understand
that in most cases, the volume of contact for each female
will be large, even overwhelming (translating that to
r/l probably equates to hundreds of men, with their dicks
in their hand, chasing a lone woman down the street... an
enduring image...). I have no issue with anyone deciding
they aren't attracted by what I've written, or
by what's on my profile, but I wonder how many times
that is actually the case. Indeed I question the whole male/female,
visual/aural argument all together. I don't adopt
a scatter gun approach, i.e. hundreds of mails to garner
a few replies. I am as selective here as I would be anywhere
else, but am still surprised at the number of messages I
send that simply vanish into the ether.
A simple 'hello' is clearly too brief. I say 'hello'
to the milkman, it doesn't mean I want to train him in
24/7 power exchange. At the other end of the scale, something
akin to the length of this piece I am writing now, may bore
the pants of her and make her think I am too interested in
myself and my opinions... or if I include too many questions
she might think it's a test... I know, I am over analysing
now!
I have seen and read many articles on here, many have been
excellent and given me new ideas or new perspectives. Some
articles pose some very complex questions, but I believe
I am searching for some possible answers to a more basic
issue.... "How do I get her to talk back?"
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