Can You Have It Both Ways?
I want to swing.
My boyfriend is controlling -- mostly because he is afraid
of losing me. He also has mild public anxiety, so never wants
to meet my new friends.
I have met several individuals and couples who are more
than interested in inviting me into their sexual lives,
but not so sure about my boyfriend -- because they dont know
him!
I am not only bored with my sex life, I am frustrated to bits!
I havn't had a really good orgasm in .. in ... I cant remember!
and I know I havn't had a multiple orgasm since my boyfriend
and I first got together, almost 4 years ago.
I'm .. just .. ready .. to explode! I want to bring my
boyfriend into the world of couple swinging .. but he's
so afraid I'm going to find someone else who is better
in bed than him (which is likly!) and leave him! (which isnt
likly!) ...
Is there some way I can explain to him that .. well .. swinging
isn't about finding new life-partners, just about
having and sharing great sexual experiences?
And should I be embarassed that my boyfriend isn't
the greatest in bed? I mean, he's amazing at giving
oral, I know that .. but I'm not the biggest fan of oral
.. I like to give it (to both men and women) but I really crave
hard, fast, LONG-lasting sex .. and we havn't done
that since we were first crazy about eachother in the first
couple months of dating.
Maybe I'm just looking for ways to spice up our sex life
-- but this is the first monogomous relationship I've
ever been in.. and its lasted 4 years.. and I really REALLY
miss having multiple partners ... I used to live in California
and have orgies almost every weekend... I know I'm
clean, and not bringing any deseases to the mix, but I still
really want to bring my sex life back up to the peak it was
when I was 20 .. I'm only 24 .. it can't be the end
of the line for me!
Please! Help! :)
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