15 Phenomemal Ideas!
1. Become a couple with unwavering commitment to doing
whatever it takes to make your overall relationship work.
Remember, problems always show up in the bedroom. If you
want great sex, never deny your partner the attention necessary
to let them know they are loved, appreciated and respected.
Relationships are something that must be worked on ALL
THE TIME, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed.
2. Have a passion for life's sexual journey and for
the processes required to go from boring to bliss in the
bedroom. Be creative with your passion. Direct it toward
your partner. Nurture it. Enjoy and revel in it.
3. Become dedicated to mutual pleasure for both you and
your love partner. Sex is fun and pleasure is good for you!
4. Learn to be intentionally spontaneous and open for the
opportunity to make love when it presents itself; during
a lunch break, in the back seat of your car or by arousing
your partner from a deep sleep in the middle of the night.
5. Perfect the ability to communicate openly and honestly
your most secret sexual desires and needs. Be responsible
for your own sexual pleasure by asking for what you need
or taking care of yourself.
6. Be willing to be a student of great sex; read about it,
study it, practice it.
7. Be mature enough to exercise the discipline to stay in
the moment when being sexually intimate. Never allow the
cares of the day to distract you. Focus on giving pleasure
to each other.
8. Be daring. . . experiment. Do things differently, try
new positions, new places, love toys and more, in agreement
with both partners, of course. Variety is the spice of a
healthy sexual relationship. Be creative! To always make
love the same old way is, in a word, BORING!!
9. Pay attention to personal hygiene. The first rule of
making love is to present a body that is tastefully clean!
10. Cultivate the generosity to consider your love partner's
pleasure before your own, or the esprit de corps to decide
whether you or your partner goes first or whether you reach
orgasm together.
11. Have the keenness of mind to recognize the value of making
love vs. only having sex. A "quickie" now and
then is okay, however to only and always depend upon quickies
for your sexual gratification is a form of "taking
your partner for granted" and can only lead to resentment.
Make time for the time that is needed to "make love."
12. Synthesize the gusto to be energetic when making love
and aware of the sensitivity it takes to passionately lay
motionless together after engaging in sex. Enjoy foreplay,
engagement and afterglow.
13. Be courageous enough to not always take yourselves
so seriously; to laugh, to play and be playful and to experience
whatever is sexually exciting and enjoyable.
14. Learn to negotiate win/win agreements and promises
about how you will mutually care for your partner's
needs in the sexual arena.
15. Ask for the variety of pleasure you want and deserve.
However, to force or coerce your partner to do something
they do not want to do breeds discontent and is highly disrespectful.
In this scenario, always take "No!" for the
answer. Never be afraid to ask for what you want and always
demonstrate the respect to honor your lover's right
to say no without consequence.
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