Married ladies: How can a fellow married man capture your attention.
If you are a married woman, and your reading this, chances
are your in a similar boat.
I would be indebted to any woman who would help me with this
issue, and I want to thank you, in advance, for any advice
you can offer.
It seems to me that married men appear to be the scum of the
earth in the eyes of most of the people utlilizing these
sites. How can I convey that I'm actually a very nice
guy (And very handsome too)who simply needs to feel the
warmth, breath and taste of a woman? I'm talking basic,
fundemental needs.
My situation?
I live with my wife and daughter. We've been married
13 years, our daughter is 8.
I own and operate a business (Off the chart stress) and my
wife works very hard as well. She is 53yrs old, I'm 41yrs
old. We both lead your typical american high stress lifestyle.
My wife chooses to sleep on the couch, downstairs, about
28 out of 30 days per month. She only sleeps in our bed when
she wants sex, and even on those nights, she goes downstairs
afterwards. Imagine the reaction if I did that.
It's true that when we do (did may be more appropriate)have
sex it's like two animals in heat, but I need the basics,
and I never get them. I've been asking her for years,
YEARS, to please show me more basic affection. Hugs, kisses,
encouragement after brutal days. Unfortunately my wife
has taught me, after years of getting the elbow to the chest,
not to come to her for it. So, like a baby whose learned that
crying will bring no comfort, I've stopped trying.
Sex without underlaying itimacy is unable to satisfy my
soul, hence here I am after enduring more then a decade.
Maybe she does what she does because your a jerk, you say?
Well, obviously, your only getting half the story, but
I promise you that if you where a fly on the wall of our home,
you would agree. In my view, my wifes choice of lifestyle
is the central obstacle hampering her willingness to connect
on a deeper level. It is her choice to live in prepetual debt,
always making minimun payments on her debt, keeping her
locked up in a state of unrelenting stress. I make no effort
to control her, we all have issues, don't we? My point
is that a married man looking for sex isn't always a
heal who is burning his family. I love my wife and daughter
dearly, and in my own way, I'm doing this to PERSERVE
my marriage by setting clear boundries with a partner.
Otherwise I've come to believe it's inevitable
that some woman will steel my heart sooner then later. One
reaction to the lack of affection is that I've taken
a serious interest in how I look. I work out, predawn, everyday.
I've gotten it so that I point where I continue to lose
weight and gain more refined muscles. I used to be a Sculptor,
and I consider my form to be a work in progress. As you can
imagine, my wife would prefer I be a typical male and has
tried every trick in the book to derail my program (death
threats, dismemberings, you name it). I suppose if my wife
were becoming increasingly beautiful, I too would be worried.
I'd like to think it would energize me to join my mate,
but my wife is going in the opposite direction.
So, back to the question.
How can I convey to you that I need affection, attention
and sex without writing an email that comes across as a married
guy trying to justify that which he is contemplating?
I think I've answered my own question.
You do so by focusing on what transpires between us, regardless
of what we bring to the table. It's not relevent, unless
specifically asked.
What do you say?
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